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"Agree to disagree"​ - be happier and more efficient

We often see people arguing about - the best actor in the world, the best footballer or cricketer; the best politician, the best religion, why their ideas or suggestions are better than that of the others. Such arguments just don’t seem to get over and often end up in heated exchanges or verbal or physical abuse too. It's the sheer lack of knowledge, facts, logical reasoning, evidence and maturity that leads to arguments.

Like Hitchens said,

“What can be asserted without evidence can also be dismissed without evidence."

If there are no sensible or logical reasons, facts or evidence available to back an argument; why argue at all. Just keep your egos aside. Respect the fact that everyone holds the right to question others' logic and ask for facts or evidence; without which arguments are purely baseless.

Such arguments only lead to strained personal or professional relationships, lack of cooperation and collaboration; and affect your productivity and efficiency. Hence, they better be avoided or settled. All you need to do is just agree to disagree. Sounds weird but it's not that complicated.

When you agree to disagree, you accept the fact that no one is going to change the other’s mind. Everyone has an opinion of their own. These opinions may not necessarily be based on logic all the time. They can be based on their personal experiences, preferences, emotions and biases that are obviously different for every individual. That's the reason why different individuals have different opinions.

When you argue with a friend over who the best musician in the world is or why your idea is better than theirs, you need to back it up with sufficient data and reasoning. If not, then it’s clearly a matter of your own emotions, experience, preference and bias. Fighting over something that can’t really be proven, like 2 + 2 = 4, often leads to hurt feelings and strained relationships.

Agreeing to disagree doesn’t mean you have to change your opinion. All you need to do is accept the fact that others have the right to have their own opinions; and respect them. You simply agree not to argue about it further.

Thus, when you agree to disagree, you begin to have less of those unnecessary arguments. You are in mature and responsible personal and professional relationships. Your friends or colleagues with different opinions still remain friends. You focus more on collaborating and finding solutions than mere arguments. This saves a lot of time and energy and helps you become more efficient which aids your personal and professional growth.

If you think before arguing or reflect upon arguments and check if they were necessary in the first place; you will certainly find peace. Your home, workplace and the entire world will be a better place.

Now you must give this a try: Remember the last time you had an argument with someone. What was it about? Was it resolved or not? Was there a need for an argument or you could have simply agreed to disagree?